Dr. Helen Fisher has been researching and writing about love for years. Such is her wisdom and understanding, she is the Chief Scientific Advisor for Match.com, one of the internet’s leading online dating service. She gives a fascinating  and fun interview with The Greater Good contrasting poetry and song lyrics with the scientific lyrics. 

She identified four basic personality types identified in her research:

You can take the test here to see which are your dominant types. I hypothesize the strengths that possibly exist in each personality type:

• Explorers (creative and dominated by dopamine). Known for being Highly curious, creative, energetic, spontaneous.  ‘Adventure’ is the word most often used by Explorers as they describe themselves and what they are looking for in a mate.  The other nine of their top ten most-used words (in descending order) are: venture, spontaneity/ spontaneous, energy, new, fun, travelling, outgoing, passion and active.  
  • Strengths: Bravery, Curisity,  Zest , Adapatable. hope & optimism and  positivty. Creativity. 

• Builder (sensible and soaked in serotonin). Known for Calm, social, popular, and good at managing people, networking, and building family and community. ‘Family’ is the most-used word by Builders.  Following this: honesty, caring, moral/morals, respect, loyal, trust, values, loving and trustworthy. 
  • Strengths: Responsibility. Woo. Kindness, Teamwork, Capacity to love and be loved. relating, Connectedness, Honesty. Social-Intelligence. 

• Director (reasoning and ruled by testosterone). Known for Analytical and logical, straightforward, decisive, tough minded, and focused.  Intelligent and intelligence together top the list of words used by Directors.  Also intellectual, debate, geek, nerd/nerdy, ambition/ ambitious, driven, politics, challenge/challenging and real. 
  • Strengths: Achiever. Analytical. Intectualization. Love of Learning. 

• Negotiator (intuitive, idealistic, and all about the estrogen and oxytocin). Known for Imaginative, intuitive, empathetic, and emotionally expressive, and have good verbal and social skills.  ‘Passion’ and ‘passionate’, also real, heart, kind/kindness, sensitive, read/reader, sweet, learning. 
  • Strengths:  hope & optimism and  positivty, Empathy, relating and communication talents, Harmony, Kindness, Capacity to love and be loved. relating