Charlie Day on doing something that makes you great

Do what makes you happy? Sure…maybe…no. No. Do what makes you great, so argues Charlie Day, creator of It’s Always Sunny in Philedelphia, in his commencement speech to Merrimack college. In an amusing set of vignettes, Charlie outlines how his choices shaped his success: “Fail, pick yourself up and fail again. Because without this struggle, what is your success anyway?”

  

“You cannot let a fear of failure, or a fear of comparison, or a fear of judgement stop you from doing what’s going to make you great. You cannot succeed without this risk of failure, you cannot have a voice without the risk of criticism and you cannot love without the risk of loss. You must go out and take these risk. … Do what’s uncomfortable, and scary, and hard, but pays off in the long run. Be willing to fail. Let yourself fail. Fail in the way and the place where you would want to fail. Fail, pick yourself up and fail again. Because without this struggle, what is your success anyway?”

Strengths mined:

 

On gratitude

Gratitude is one of the 24 character strengths. It has its own holida in the US and Canada. It has a host of positive health benefits

Consider Louie Schwartzberg gorgeous 6 minute film on gratitude.

Here are some nice guided meditations and exercises to focus you on gratitude:

Jim Carrey on finding purpose

“Our eyes are not just viewers, they are projectors…” Abolsute Motivation has taken some of his commencement speach and edited with clips from his many great movies. 

Strengths mind:

  • Hope
  • Love
  • Humour
  • Wisdom

What’s the best mindful app?

With over 700 Apps in the sore it can be difficult to decide which one to choose. You could end up buying a fine timer, but it will not teach mindfulness. About a year ago, researchers published a study evaluating apps using the Mobile Application Rating Scale (MARS) targeting
  • functionality,
  • look,
  • information quality,
  • engagement, and
  • subjective quality.
The top free ones?
Below is the list of the ones that fair best in the vaulation. 

Visual: The Effects of mindfulness

How good is mindfulness? Very good:

Ideas and inspiration for curriculum utalizing positive psychology:

Ideas and inspiration for curriculum utalizing positive psychology:

  • Wellington School’s Scope and Sequence of their curriculum–unfortunately, they have removed the curriculum, but you can figure out what they were doing.
  • Positive Education resources from Chinese International School.
  • St. Peter’s College in Australia offers up their curriculum
  • Geelong Grammar School has a comprehensive positive education site that only lacks in specifics of their curriculum.
  • Greater Good Society’s website is a go to for news, videos and more. Often overlooked is the more practical Greater Good in Action which curates specific activities.
  • The Penn Resilience Program for Middle school–sort of the grandmother of positive education movement–is online, including a brief description of each lesson.
  • Corstone may inspire with some of their shared research in their toolkit. For example, check out their Girl’s First Program.
  • Check out and join the Character Day movement–they also offer specific curriculum.
  • Happy, the Movie and Disucssion Guide for MIddle/High Schoolers and for College Students.
  • Character.org offers a database of lesson plans.

Comparing Strengths assessment

Different strength tools
Who is it for and what does it cost

 

 

 

 

 

Youth

Adult

Adult

Youth

Adult

Adult

Adult

15-20

15

15

25

20

25

24 in order

 

Top 3 of 10

Top 5 of 34

21 of 60

2 of 9 

Free +

Free +

Free in Naviance

$10

$25

$15

Character

 

Talents

Talents

C, T and unrealised

Strengths roles

 

What it measures

 

 

 

6 Virtues

 

4 dimensions

10 talents

 

4 Domains

 

5 families

9 Strength groups

 

 

Wisdom and Knowledge 

 

Courage 

 

Humanity –

 

Justice – 

 

Temperance –

 

Transcendence 

 

 

Decisive 

Interactive

Stabilising

Cautiousness

——-

Two reports:

Natural

Adaptive

 

——-

15 patterns

Achieving 

Caring 

Competing 

Confidence 

Dependability 

Discoverer 

Future Thinker 

Organizer 

Presence 

Relating 

 

INFLUENCING STRENGTHS

 

EXECUTING STRENGTHS

 

 

RELATING STRENGTHS

STRATEGIC THINKING

 

 

Being, Communicating, Motivating

Relating Thinking

——-

Realised

Unrealised

Weeknesses

Advisor

Connector

Creator

Equalizer

Influencer

Pioneer

Provider

Stimulator

Teacher

 

 

 

List of Strengths defined

 

 

 

Creativity

Curiosity

Judgment/Open-Mind,

Love of Learning

Perspective, wisdom

Bravery

Perseverance, industriousness

Honesty/integrity

Zest

Capacity to Love Kindness/generosity

Social Intelligence

Teamwork

Fairness

Leadership

Forgiveness&Mercy

Modesty&Humility

Prudence

self-control

App. of Beauty/Excel.

Gratitude

Hope, optimism,

Humor

Religious/Spirituality

Achiever

Agent

Appraiser

Counselor

Creative

Developer

Inspirational

Investigator

Objective Thinker

Perfectionist

Persuader

Practitioner

Promoter

Result oriented

Specialist

 

Achieving 

Caring 

Competing 

Confidence 

Dependability 

Discoverer 

Future Thinker 

Organizer 

Presence 

Relating 

Activator,Command, 

Communication, Competition, Arranger Maximizer, Achiever

Self-Assurance, 

Significance, Woo

Consistency, Belief Deliberative,

Discipline, Focus, Responsibility, Restorative, Developer

Adaptability, Input

Connectedness, Empathy, Harmony, Includer, Individualization, 

Positivity, Relator

Analytical, Context, Futuristic, Ideation,, Intellection, Learner, Strategic

Action

Adventure

Bounceback

Drive 

Enabaler

Emotional Awareness

Esteem build

Courage 

Humor

Improver 

Curiosity

Pride

Listern

Planful

 

Advisor

Connector

Creator

Equalizer

Influencer

Pioneer

Provider

Stimulator

Teacher

 

 

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Meet the strengths exchange

Looking for a story to help understand Strengths in Action? Check out the Strengths Exchange Website put together by Professor Leah Walters of University of Melbourne and Lara Mossman. Their aims to bring free rousrces for parenting:

The Strengths Exchange brings together stories of character strengths to encourage families to start conversations about the strengths within them. Discover what character strengths are and how they are being applied to everyday life by parents and children of all ages. Watch our videos of children, adolescents and parents talking about strengths. Discover our strength-based parenting resources, too. 

The website brings together interviews, videos and podcasts focusing on strengths in action. Well worth checking out. 

Meraki

Meraki (pronounced may-rah-kee; Greek): Doing something with soul, creativity, or love. It’s when you put something of yourself into what you’re doing. What a lovely notion: You infuse all your acts of creation are infused with a piece of you.

  • Character strengths: Creativity, Love, Honesty, Spirituality and Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence. 
  • Strengths of competence: Presence, Discoverer and Achiever talents.

Want to take your Meraki to the next level?

  • Start with reading: The Element by Ken Robinson

Great TED talks to check out:

Canadian filmmaker Martin Villeneuve talks about “Mars et Avril,” the sci-fi spectacular he made with virtually no money over a seven-year stretch. In this charming talk, he explains the various ways he overcame financial and logistical constraints to produce his unique and inventive vision of the future.

Jose Antonio Abreu is the charismatic founder of a youth orchestra system that has transformed thousands of kids’ lives in Venezuela. Here he shares his amazing story and unveils a TED Prize wish that could have a big impact in the US and beyond.

How do creative people come up with great ideas? Organizational psychologist Adam Grant studies “originals“: thinkers who dream up new ideas and take action to put them into the world. In this talk, learn three unexpected habits of originals — including embracing failure. “The greatest originals are the ones who fail the most, because they’re the ones who try the most,” Grant says. “You need a lot of bad ideas in order to get a few good ones.”

Elizabeth Gilbert was once an “unpublished diner waitress,” devastated by rejection letters. And yet, in the wake of the success of ‘Eat, Pray, Love,’ she found herself identifying strongly with her former self. With beautiful insight, Gilbert reflects on why success can be as disorienting as failure and offers a simple — though hard — way to carry on, regardless of outcomes.

Elizabeth Gilbert muses on the impossible things we expect from artists and geniuses — and shares the radical idea that, instead of the rare person “being” a genius, all of us “have” a genius. It’s a funny, personal and surprisingly moving talk.

Novelist Amy Tan digs deep into the creative process, looking for hints of how hers evolved.